One day I noticed that I didn’t have the anger I once did for a particular person…it just melted away.

It’s an on-going process though.

I’d be interested to know – do you have a physical kind of ritual, something that you do on a regular basis, to remind you to forgive?

I’d add learning to forgive. When we forgive, we forgift ourselves. Is there a colleague, someone you’ve done business with that would benefit from forgiveness?

The place to start is in our heart – the brain has its own agenda.

Imagine I’ve had an enquiry from a potential client, I’ve had a couple of meetings to discuss how we might work together but no decision has been made. At this point I have probably done all I can to present myself and my business in the best possible light – the rest will be up to the client or something else. That’s the time to let go of the outcome. It’s no longer in my hands. (Some would say that I could let go earlier than this and work totally from my intuition and in co-creation with the universe – but that’s probably the subject of a separate blog – a longish one! lol!)

If I were to be attached to the outcome in this kind of situation then I might well agonise over it, spend mental energy on worrying rather than directing my energy to other tasks. My anxiety might well lead to anger and frustration with others I work with or with friends and relations.

So, I can set my intention for the day (or for individual events throughout the day). That’s within my control. And I can let go of the outcome, over which I ultimately do not have control. Interestingly, in most ancient spiritual texts I believe there is something along the lines of “Sew the seeds and surrender the fruits.”

Love your telephone stone idea. And, yes, great to find ways to pause for breath and to ground oneself before taking the call. I particularly like the fact that I’d need to touch the stone first. Thanks for that.

One of my own rituals is to find ways to pause for breath. A smooth stone by my telephone, for example, which I touch before I answer the phone. It grounds me for the call.