A guest blog post today from Lisa Mc Loughlin who has reclaimed her passion for the creative and now offers her services as an ‘Artist for Entrepreneurs’. Her forte is understanding what inspires you and what you have to offer the world and then creating the artwork you need to express yourself and the heart of your business. Here’s her story:
It all happened in 2010. Without a roadmap, I left my old life and took on an adventure into the terrain of Lisa McLoughlin…
I had almost burned out, when the discomfort of staying in my ‘Surface Happy’ life became worse than the discomfort of leaving. At the time, I had a fabulous husband, home and a successful career as a physiotherapist. But, essential ingredients were missing. What though?
Things needed to change. I was soul searching, but somehow not daring to look deep enough inside for the answer to the question of what I really wanted to do with my life. There was too much fear amongst the shadows. On reflection, if only I had dared to shine a light on those scary places, been honest with myself and listened to my inner voice and intuitive nudges sooner, wisdom would have been uncovered.
I asked: How do I change my life? But obliterated the light of ‘What do I really want to do and Why? ‘
I spent so many years people pleasing and seeking counsel outside myself. No wonder I was a confused mess by the end of it. The person who really serves the best interests of my best future self is actually ME… I just had to pay attention and get to know who I really was. It wasn’t that easy. To trust myself took a mammoth amount of courage and a bucket full of hope…especially when people surroundering me thought I was losing the plot.
Whispers inside me said ‘You deserve compassion…You deserve to feel heard and loved with your vulnerabilities and not in spite of them…You can live a life doing things you enjoy…You can have connection with people and nature… The clues are in your flow times and being in the moment.’
But, this was all too painful to address, as it involved changing the whole of my life!
I summoned the courage and listened to my intuition. I did not have a plan in mind, but I did leave my home and my husband.
(On reflection, I feel this drastic measure was not required if I could just find the courage to accept how I felt and communicate it as compassionately as possible….much sooner…patiently and with persistence, with less turmoil and upset.)
Part of my transformative journey has been about acceptance and honest communication with myself and others, taking back my control, adopting a growth mindset and taking little intuitive steps to make a change.
People and things could not make me happy unless I was happy with myself. I had to feel it inside and compassionately honour my own needs in order to shine and blossom in my life and with others.
I could not have done this transformation alone. But, I was surrounded by judgements, criticisms, naysayers and doubters. It was the worst environment for a seedling of an idea to grow. That is why I had to leave.
A happy turn of events is that I hired a coach and started to unfurl and uncover answers deep within myself. Open questions and space to think and answer within a non-judgemental space was just what I needed: the compassionate buddy I had always craved.
I was so taken with the process that I even trained to be a coach myself. But, after 18 months I realised this was not what I really wanted to do. But, surrounding myself in a hotpot of lovely coaches and healers provided me with an environment for me to know myself.
Through meeting this community, I discovered that my best future self was whispering to me and asking me to step into the artist I have always been. It has been a passion of mine since I was a child but my creative dreams were squished when I was 17. My college/home environment was telling me that I was ‘too brainy’ to be an artist.
The people pleaser in me continued from then on and I spent years lost at sea doing what I did not really want to do. But, the 17 year old me was absolutely right. I knew way back then what my soul was searching for. If I had listened to myself who knows where I might be today?
A coach suggested I give myself permission to be an artist for a week and I have not looked back. The lid flew off my life and everything made perfect sense for the first time in my life.
I live a very simple life now. I do not have my own home (yet). I have an unpredictable career, but I am surrounded by compassionate and loving people and I am communicating and doing what I really love to do.
I feel richer and more blessed than I ever have. I express gratitude every day, as I truly believe that things will be okay now: I know myself and am no longer afraid to be me.
I invite you to have a look at my website and see if my passion and light shines through!
Take little steps towards your valued goals…have those difficult conversations and stand in your power. Your best beautiful version of your future self deserves and depends on it!